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Are you abused?

Sometimes this is a confusing question. Domestic abuse is common, and you may not recognize it as it begins. Many people don’t realize they are in an abusive relationship because they have not yet been physically hurt. Is your partner using verbal, psychological, physical or sexual threats against you? Is he/she controlling, threatening or prone to outbursts or violent reactions?

If you answered "yes" to that question but still aren't sure if you are in an abusive relationship, please review the questions below. Do these questions describe your partner's actions?

  • Is your partner insulting you, putting you down or blaming you for everything that happens?
  • Is your partner telling you that you are not worthy or "not good enough" to be loved?
  • Is your partner sometimes jealous and overly possessive?
  • Is your partner someone who witnessed domestic violence as a child?
  • Is your partner prone to an explosive or “bad temper?”
  • Is your partner keeping you from having your own friends, or seeing your family
  • Is your partner keeping you from having your own opinions, or not allowing you to speak freely?
  • Is your partner keeping you from carrying or spending money, controlling how much you spend or making financial decisions without your input?
  • Is your partner threatening you in any way, which makes you feel afraid?
  • Is your partner someone who destroys things or possessions when angry?
  • Is your partner pushing, slapping, hitting, kicking, biting or grabbing you at the neck, or pulling your hair?
  • Is your partner forcing you to have sex when you don't want to?
  • Is your partner threatening to hurt or kill you, your children, pets or members of your family?

ANY of the following incidents are signs of increased danger:

  • Partner’s controlling behavior more obvious. Stalking, electronic tracking and checking phone for calls and texts happen more frequently.
  • Physical contact or “sex-play” gets rougher.
  • Partner tries to strangle you.
  • There is a gun in the house.
  • Partner abuses drugs or alcohol.
  • Partner threatens to kill self or others.
  • You become pregnant and your partner becomes increasingly jealous or controlling.
  • Partner is increasingly jealous, suspicious, or possessive.
  • Partner gets into fights with other people.
  • Partner hurts or kills pets.

If you recognize these signs in your partner, you are being abused, and you may be in danger. You can get FREE and CONFIDENTIAL help at Branches Domestic Violence Shelter. Call our 24-Hour Emergency Hotline at 304-529-2382.

Leaving an abusive relationship can be dangerous. Know your options. Safety planning help begins with a phone call to Branches' 24-Hour Crisis Hotline: 304-529-2382. Call now. You have the right to be safe 24/7!